I want to be strong like her

"You don't meet a strong person who has an easy past." Peter Casanova

You're saying to yourself, I wish I could be strong like her? Maybe you don't know what she went through in her life before she became a strong woman. Inner strength isn't easily acquired with a snap of the fingers.

People often tend to compare themselves to others. Yet many times it would be better to learn from their own experiences. If we want to compare ourselves to someone else, how about comparing ourselves to ourselves and our past? I don't mean that we should "dissect" the past. We can just look, often the past is mirrored by people we have met before and now we meet again in a different light.

Perhaps everyone perceives a role model in their lives - whether from several well-known personalities or in personal contact.
But often it is the case that we idealize our role model. Then it comes as a surprise when we discover that even our role model, our "perfect lady", has her faults and problems. We may then feel disappointed that our image has disappeared. What to do if she is not so strong in reality either? We'll probably have to look elsewhere for strength...

The question is, how to get the inner strength? One that we can really lean on. For some it's faith that helps, for others it's the realization of values that are important and things that are not so important. And how do we imagine an internally strong person? Probably not like a stoic clique. While he probably doesn't just get upset about something, he can face challenges, doesn't argue unnecessarily, and can hold up other people in his environment.

And most importantly, he doesn't wallow in bad thoughts, instead, he takes things in stride. Do you have another idea? Share it :)

"All that glitters is not gold." Likewise, not everyone who looks strong on the outside is strong on the inside. Often there is sometimes a little soul in a seemingly tough guy when he has to face an uncomfortable situation.

Let me go back to the opening quote from Casanova. Often, difficult experiences in the past toughen us for the future. It happens that some things in life repeat themselves in a way, it's just our reaction to them that changes, that is if we have matured.

Do you still want to be the One who looks strong, carefree, and just plain cool?

You may find that this is usually just a "mask".

It can help to boost your inner strength to spend time doing what you love to do and being with those who listen to you.
Last, but not least, take a moment for yourself :)