I can't do that! I really can't do it, or is it just a block?

Do you like to sing, but only when you're locked alone in the shower where no one else can hear you?

Or do you sometimes draw something on paper, but always in secret?

You just feel like you can't do it. But where did it come from? Often these feelings have their origins in childhood. You may say to yourself, that everyone knows something more and something less. Why block yourself from the start with the fear that you can't do it? For example, a child in kindergarten will tell us that this is not the way to paint and that we got it wrong. And we carry that feeling of failure into adulthood. More often than not, it comes from our authorities, when they explain to us in good faith how it is done and how it is not done. Whereas we need to feel appreciation in the moment. In short, we made it, even if it's not perfect.

Then comes the situation where we give up and make excuses by saying, "I can't do it. I can't paint."

We can still see the teacher in front of us who said: "You better not sing."

But why do we let such words out of our mouths? Don't we realize that they can hurt?

I have an experience, perhaps a slight childhood trauma, of painting. When the girls in kindergarten told me that the fingers on your hands don't paint like lines. Maybe I'd figure it out on my own in time.

But how many times do we not leave room for others to just try and experiment? Everyone has a different pace of development. Let's give the kids the confidence that they'll figure it out on their own in time. Maybe then they'll surprise us with their talents.
Just don't give people "labels" like - "scratched", or "deaf", because these are hard to get rid of.

Above all, let's be kind to ourselves, respect our reserves, and develop according to our interests, but at the same time be open to other possibilities. Let's not let that block from our childhood in us, but let's try to break it down together.

How can we get out of these blocks?

Sometimes, for example, mothers stop being afraid to sing when their children are born. They hum to them and gradually they start to sing.

Or we learn artistic expression in our old age by drawing with the right hemisphere of the brain.

The possibilities are many.

It can also be important to realize that it is our opinion that matters rather than the opinion of others.

Have you experienced similar feelings? What has helped you personally?